We all know them. Everyone has at least one toxic person in their lives. They may be close relatives or Friends, which is why it may be impossible to get away from them. They can be draining, upsetting and make you feel bad about yourself. However, there are some things you can do to deal with these toxic people. Keep reading for more information.
The first thing you can do, if at all possible, is to cut down time that you spend with these people. They usually are the ones calling you all the time and trying to be in your company a lot of the time. You need to be able to tell them no. If they call more than once a day, let their calls go to voicemail. If they want to see you multiple times a week, cut that down to one. If you can’t avoid them altogether, do your best to restrict interactions with them.
The next thing you might want to do is to examine why they are so toxic to you. This is something you can do on your own. You need to ask yourself why they trigger your bad feelings. Are you afraid you will end up like them? Are you said that they are that way? Getting to the root of why you feel the way you do toward them, you can better find ways to cope. For instance, if you are afraid that you will turn out like them, before you see them outline all the ways you are different.
You can also talk to the toxic person. There is a big chance that they will not even realize that you find them to be toxic. That is why you owe them a chance to sit down and talk. Do not call them toxic, because they will likely become upset. Instead, choose a few specific actions that they take, which you don’t like. If they are willing to change, that is a good sign. If they become belligerent and start attacking you, back off.
Do your best not to get into an argument with a toxic person. Toxic people like to argue. This is generally because they want to be in control of something, and when they can’t control you, they don’t like it. However, you don’t need to get into every argument they want to have with you. Simply take a few deep breaths and think about peaceful things. When they see you are not going to argue with them, they will stop.
Find new Friends to spend time with. In order to make sure that you can move on, start finding supportive people to talk to and do things with. This can be a great way for you to forget about the toxic people in your life. If you are spending time with good Friends, you won’t have that much time to deal with any toxicity.
Toxic people are everywhere, and we all have to deal with them. Use the tips above to help you cope. Soon you’ll feel much better.